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Clinging to The Past: Leadership requires moving forward

Marshall Goldsmith in his book What Got You Here Won’t get You There talks about clinging to the past as one of the things that will keep you from the top. Marshall talks about this as being a way to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events and people from our past. Another way of blaming everyone else. I move beyond this to explore how we can move beyond that. Learning from the past can be important but moving forward towards new things is as important, but how can you do that? In this week’s vlog post I give a few examples and ideas that you can use right away – try it out and let me know.

If You Are Hearing Excuses, Look at Yourself.

#12, making excuses in Marshall Goldsmith’s book What Got You Here Won’t Get You There and his list of Twenty Habits That Keep You from the Top talks about how we deflect responsibility for our actions instead of simply saying sorry and moving on. It is “the need to reposition our annoying behaviour as a permanent fixture so people excuse us for it”. If we see others around us making excuses, look at yourself first. Odds are they are picking it up from you as the leader. As Marshall states, “if we can stop excusing ourselves, we can get better at almost anything we choose”. As I often do I have included a tip or two for you to try…. Let me know what you think.

Taking Credit When It Is Not Ours to Give

In his book What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, Marshall Goldsmith lists the 11th habit that will keep you from the top as claiming credit that we don’t deserve and as Marshall puts it “…adding injury that comes with overlooking recognition” (see last week’s blog). “We are not only depriving people of the credit they deserve, but we are hogging it for ourselves. It’s two crimes in one”.

This week I give you a process where you can reflect on if this is something you might be going. We don’t always know we are doing this, it can be something we are not aware of but can have devastating effects on the moral of your team if you are not, and if you don’t do something about it.

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

You can read my blog at http://johnkwhitehead.ca

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A Tip on How to Make Sure You Give Recognition

We are now halfway through Marshall Goldsmith’s 20 Habits That keep You from the Top. Number 10 is Failing to Give proper Recognition. Often, we just let things go by without recognizing when things are done well. There are several reasons for this but that doesn’t excuse it. So how might we change that? This week I give you a process to shift this behaviour and create the new habit of recognition.

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

You can read my blog at http://johnkwhitehead.ca

If you have enjoyed reading these posts, please Follow Me – and if you sign up for my Blog I will send you a copy of my eBook, “What Are These Things Called Soft Skills?”

Why “You Can Have That” Matters

Withholding information: The refusal to share information in order to maintain an advantage over others. This is the 9th Habit That Keeps You from The Top as described and pronounced by Marshall Goldsmith in his leadership book “What Got You Won’t Get You There”.  As Marshall puts it, “the problem with not sharing information, for whatever reason, is that it rarely achieves its desired effect. You may think you are gaining an edge….. but you are actually breeding mistrust” (pg.69). What about the reverse, providing information openly and even without being asked? This weeks Vlog explores this subject and askes some very interesting questions to think about.

 

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

You can read my blog at http://johnkwhitehead.ca

If you have enjoyed reading these posts, please Follow Me – and if you sign up for my Blog I will send you a copy of my eBook, “What Are These Things Called Soft Skills?”