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Habit #20 – An Excessive Need to Be “Me”

John Whitehead
February 9, 2021

The excessive need to be me is exalting our faults as virtues simply because they’re who we are. Marshall Goldsmith in his book What Got You Here Won’t Get You Here calls this the “chronic behaviour, both positive and negative”. In my interpretation of this habit, I talk about how we need to know ourselves, who we are and to focus on these things we need to shift – change, to make us better. It is not just about us; it is about others and the Platinum Rule which states that we are to treat others as they want to be treated.

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

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Executive Coaching, Leadership, Leadership Coaching, Leadership Development, personal development, Self-Awareness, Soft Skills

When the Buck Stops Here

John Whitehead
February 3, 2021

Marshall Goldsmith in his book What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, calls Passing the Buck “one of those terrifying hybrid flaws” where you take “a healthy dose of needing to win and making excuses. Mix it with refusing to apologize and failing to give proper recognition. Sprinkle in a faint hint of punishing the messenger and getting angry. And what you end up with is passing the buck. Blaming others for our mistakes”. And if you haven’t figured it out yet, each of those italicized terms are habits we have previously explored in this series. What do you do? Watch this week’s Vlog and let me know…

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

You can read my blog at https://johnkwhitehead.ca

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Leadership, Leadership Coaching, Leadership Development, personal development, Self-Awareness

Punishing the Messenger

John Whitehead
January 26, 2021

Punishing the Messenger – the misguided need to attack the innocent who are usually trying to help us.

In his book What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, Marshall Goldsmith states that punishing the messenger “is like taking the worst elements of not giving recognition and hogging the credit and passing the buck and making destructive comments and not thanking or listening – and then adding anger to the mix.”  And as we talked about last week, the next time someone brings something to you, make sure you stop and listen, and just say “thank you”

 

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

You can read my blog at https://johnkwhitehead.ca

If you have enjoyed reading these posts, please Follow Me – and if you sign up for my Blog I will send you a copy of my eBook, “What Are These Things Called Soft Skills?”

 

Leadership, Leadership Coaching, Leadership Development, personal development, Self-Awareness

The Impact of Just Saying “Thank-You.”

John Whitehead
January 20, 2021

Dale Carnegie is known to say that the two sweetest words in the English language were a person’s first and last name. If you have known people who do that in conversations with you, you have more than likely paid closer attention to them and appreciated the attention. Marshall Goldsmith in his book “What Got You Here Won’t get You There” has a different perception of the two sweetest words in the English language, that they are “Thank you”. It is showing gratitude and in fact, Marshall states “Failing to express gratitude is the most basic form of bad manners”. In this week’s vlog I explore the impact of just saying “thank you” can have.

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

You can read my blog at https://johnkwhitehead.ca

If you have enjoyed reading these posts, please Follow Me – and if you sign up for my Blog I will send you a copy of my eBook, “What Are These Things Called Soft Skills?”

Executive Coaching, Leadership, Leadership Coaching, Leadership Development, Listening, personal development, Soft Skills

Are You Listening?

John Whitehead
January 12, 2021

Not Listening is Marshall Goldsmith’s 16th habit in his book What Got You Here Won’t Get You There and of the 20 Habits That Keep You from the Top. Marshall comments that this is the most passive aggressive for of disrespect for colleagues.  In this week’s Vlog post I not only talk about the impact not listening has but I also give you a tool that you can use to help you in learning to slow down and listen.

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

You can read my blog at https://johnkwhitehead.ca

If you have enjoyed reading these posts, please Follow Me – and if you sign up for my Blog I will send you a copy of my eBook, “What Are These Things Called Soft Skills?”