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15. Refusing to Express Regret – saying I’m sorry

Over the past 15 weeks I have been talking about habits that will keep you from the top, this week is number 15 – The inability to take responsibility for actions, admit when we are wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others – What are your experiences with this? Have you seen this in your workplace from a manager you have had, or currently have? What about yourself? In this week’s video I ask you to reflect on the past couple of weeks and to consider your actions. As is my focus in my coaching practice, it’s about self-awareness and the consequences of not being in touch with how your actions or inactions are affecting others.

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

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Are you Playing Favorites in the Workplace?

Playing favorites is failing to see that we are treating someone differently, maybe even unfairly

The question isn’t “do we play favorites – like some people over others, treat some people differently than others”?  As humans we do tend to do that – the question should be “are we aware of this and the impact it has”? As leaders this can have a significant impact and as I talk about in this week’s Vlog post possible toxic consequences in the workplace. Again, it comes down to personal self-awareness, watching for our unconscious bias. As a coach I work with my client’s on finding what these may be and then how to mitigate them.

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

You can read my blog at https://johnkwhitehead.ca

If you have enjoyed reading these posts, please Follow Me – and if you sign up for my Blog I will send you a copy of my eBook, “What Are These Things Called Soft Skills?”

Clinging to The Past: Leadership requires moving forward

Marshall Goldsmith in his book What Got You Here Won’t get You There talks about clinging to the past as one of the things that will keep you from the top. Marshall talks about this as being a way to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events and people from our past. Another way of blaming everyone else. I move beyond this to explore how we can move beyond that. Learning from the past can be important but moving forward towards new things is as important, but how can you do that? In this week’s vlog post I give a few examples and ideas that you can use right away – try it out and let me know.

If You Are Hearing Excuses, Look at Yourself.

#12, making excuses in Marshall Goldsmith’s book What Got You Here Won’t Get You There and his list of Twenty Habits That Keep You from the Top talks about how we deflect responsibility for our actions instead of simply saying sorry and moving on. It is “the need to reposition our annoying behaviour as a permanent fixture so people excuse us for it”. If we see others around us making excuses, look at yourself first. Odds are they are picking it up from you as the leader. As Marshall states, “if we can stop excusing ourselves, we can get better at almost anything we choose”. As I often do I have included a tip or two for you to try…. Let me know what you think.