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Danger – Showing People We’re Smarter Than We Are

Have You ever been in one of those conversations where the other person keeps playing “one-upmanship”, you know, they keep adding to the conversation additional information just to prove they know what they are talking about – trying to show how smart that are? Marshall Goldsmith lists this as the sixth Habit That keep You From The Top in his book, “What Got You Here Won’t Get You There”, which is the need to show people we’re smarter than they think we are. This may even be you! How can you tell? What can you do about it? In this weeks Vlog post I explore how you might identify and manage this particular habit.

 

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

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Marshall’s 4th Habit That Keeps You from The Top

Making destructive comments is Marshall Goldsmith’s 4th habit that keeps you from the top. These are the needless sarcasms and cutting remarks that we think make us sound sharp and witty. In this week’s Vlog I take a different take on what this means to me and how I have seen this manifest in leaders. As a participant stated in one of my workshops, “I kinda get pissy”, this nailed it for me and demonstrated how our emotions can get away from us, we say things in the moment with out thinking about it. So how do we shift this…. Watch to find out more

 

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

You can read my blog at https://johnkwhitehead.ca

If you have enjoyed reading these posts, please Follow Me – and if you sign up for my Blog I will send you a copy of my eBook, “What Are These Things Called Soft Skills?”

Passing Judgement: When making assumptions gets you in trouble.

In his book “What Got You Here Won’t get You There”, Marshall Goldsmith lists the 3rd of his Twenty habits that keep you from the top as Passing Judgement, which he defines as “the need to rate others and impose our standards on them”. In my mind it is about making assumptions. We often make judgments because we have assumed something which may be correct or may be incorrect. We jump to conclusions and when we do what is the message, we, as leaders are sending our direct reports? In this week’s Vlog I explore what this means to me… what about you?

John K Whitehead & Associates coaches individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by helping them improve their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

You can read my blog at https://johnkwhitehead.ca

If you have enjoyed reading these posts, please Follow Me – and if you sign up for my Blog I will send you a copy of my eBook, “What Are These Things Called Soft Skills?”

Adding Too Much Value? When is too much, too much?

Adding too much value is the overwhelming desire to add your two cents to every discussion. You may have a great idea or thought, but what is the unintended consequence you are having on others? As a leader one of your roles is to develop others, by adding value are you really giving them the opportunity to learn and grow. Watch this week’s Vlog post on another lesson learned from Marshall Goldsmith’s book “What Got You There Won’t get You Here” to learn more…

 

John K Whitehead & Associates assists individuals and organizations in becoming more effective by improving their interpersonal communications, emotional intelligence, and resiliency.

You can follow my blogs at https://johnkwhitehead.ca

If you have enjoyed reading these posts, please Follow Me

What is “Winning Too Much” and Why Does It Matter?

In his book What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, Marshall Goldsmith gives us his Twenty Habits That Hold You from The Top. These are twenty behaviours or habits that you may not even be aware of but have a significant impact on you as a leader. In this Vlog Post and for the next several weeks I will explore each of the twenty habits from my own perspective and what I have learned from them. I start with the first, Winning Too Much: the need to win at all costs and in all situations – when it matters, when it doesn’t, and when it is totally beside the point.